You are very beautiful and I'm not just speaking about your physical self. I sort of imagine you as a fairy every time I think of you and it warms my heart up like someone set a fire underneath it.
That is the sweetest compliment I have ever received. Thanks for being so lovely
How do you know when a relationship is worth fighting for? My partner and I are having some communication/trust issues and the past few weeks he's pulled away to the point of him not coming to see our son. And if i ask him I'm "nagging" him. We hardly ever talk now and it's bothering me :(
This exact question has been a theme for me this entire year.. i hope i can give you some insight!
I think it depends on how long the issues have been going on for and what you guys have tried to do to heal things. Are you able to speak together about the issues at all? Are you living separately?
Lewis and I had a couple of sessions with a relationship counsellor and doing that really gave me clarity on the situation. The main thing that helped me was, we were asked to think about our non-negotiables in a relationship. What are the things that you *must* have in a relationship, and what are the things you personally can’t live with in a relationship. Talk about those and find out if your partner is capable of giving you what you truely need, and if he’s willing to work with you through it.
Negotiating with lewis about an appropriate time to wait before he starts sleeping with other people. Fuck this. This is going to be a confusing and heartbreaking time. The difference with us is that I’m a breastfeeding mum, still suffering from low libido. I have absolutely no desire to pursue or be with anyone, and even if I did, I have no time whatsoever to get to know someone. Let alone sleep with them in the house that im raising my children in.
I don’t know how to deal with these emotions. It’s a horrible feeling that I want to escape from. I feel like this is unfair. He can go off, his body completely unchanged from the last 4 years of parenting, feel no attachment to me whatsoever and use his free time to hang out with other girls.
I really don’t want this to get messy and I need to find a way to cope, or to just stop thinking about this all together.
Some nights I eat a whole block of chocolate in one sitting.
Tonight is one of those nights.
Also, in relation to my other post. Obviously we’ve been having to talk to Tokie about death. Keeping in mind he lost both of his grandparents in 2012, and now 3 of his great grandpa’s have passed in the space of 3 weeks.
It’s so tricky, because death is such a sensitive and big topic, i don’t want him to start to think that death of family members is usually this common. I’ve only vaguely mentioned the last 2 great grandpa’s deaths to him. It makes me sad that he’s well aquainted with the term “passed away”. I hope this will be the last family death for a long long time.
You might’ve seen my post last week about Lewis’s granddad being in hospital with heart problems. He ended up passing away the night i wrote that, and we attended the funeral today. This is after my grandpa died 2 weeks earlier.
Well, 2 days ago my other grandpa(before all of this i had a full set of grandparents, all alive) had a fall and damaged his spine badly. He ended up passing away today.
This turn of events is sort of unbelievable. This is not a good time of year for grandpa’s apparently. I feel terribly sad for both of my parents and their families. I feel ok though.
Wow oh wow you're going through so much! I love you, you deserve someone who will help you through those heavy feelings, not cause them, I hope Lewis can understand you better and do that! I know you connect with him and I'm glad you are trying to work it out. Life is wild! You're such a beautiful woman with such a lovely soul, you'll be ok! Those precious kiddos are worth it.
I had to post this here because my blog needs some Jenna lovin’ <3
Thank you for such a sweet message!